Aims of this new forum

[KuzuKuzu]

I met him in Malta,7months ago

[mrheld]

Originally Posted by Baris

Hi everybody and merhaba!

The main objective of this new forum is to give the opportunity to couples made up of a Turk and an English (or other) to discuss of their situation, of the pros and cons of such a union, the wealth it provides as well as the difficulties it might engender.

Also, this forum will allow people who think of making such a mixt marriage to ask questions to experienced couples in that matter.

Hope it will be beneficial for all...

[mrheld]

Interesting site to say the least! I have a real problem with the Turkish woman I have been with for 7 years and I cannot deal with it in ways I am accostumed to addressing issues. I need advice and quickly.

She is from Ankara and lives with me in South Dakota. We met through business on the internet 7 years ago. I dont know where to start but please help me.

The issue is our age, nationality, and religion. How do I confront these issues and make some sort of compromise?

Our age... I am 53 and she is 31. Is this accepted in Turkey? I have been hiding from her family for 7 years and it is the stumbling block to our relationship. I even moved out of my house for 2 months last time her family came to visit as to not rock the boat. She is deathly afraid to let her family know that I have been with her all these years.

This issue has caused much problems for us. If she goes back to Turkey I am not allowed to go because of this problem with her father. And I know that she has been with other men who she finds more acceptable by her father. I should have put a stop to this madness years ago but did not want to disobey her wishes but this is reaching critical mass.

She will not marry me... but it is unacceptable for her to be with me because of her father's beliefs. It is a no win situation that I am losing.. I have given up everything in my life for her.. and do not want to lose her. The marriage idea has been hot and cold with her in the past but now it is out of the question. Her job and I4 are the only things keeping us together. If she loses her job she will go back to Turkey and leave me. I cannot stand to have this happen.

[KuzuKuzu]

if she really loves you,she can build something good with you...she has to realise that her future life is not with her father,but with a man (if she wants!) even if you're not going to get married! it's up to you...or you leave her to her "turkish"life or continue to live this story with its good and bad things...her father will understand the situation-she' 31 come onnn!!
take care

[mrym]

I'm Turkish.and I know how my father behave such a position.he doesn't accept such an age difference.I guess ,it is about "Turkish men".
but .personally,It mustn't be a huge problem,ıf your grilfriend really love you.

[Hennie1304]

Hi everyone.

I have recently met a lovely Turkish man whilst I was on holiday. We got on so well although his English wasn't great. Most of the time we used a dictionary but got by quite well. I am now back in the UK and miss him so much. We still communicate alot through text. I am desperate to see him again and my Aunt wants to buy a house out there where I am welcome to live. Anyway the reason Im posting this is because all my friends and family disagree with the whole thing. Not sure what I should do?? My heart is in Turkey but my head is here???

What do you think??

[sweetnur]

wow what is it with turkish men and women that makes people fall in love with them? well i m asking because i am in that situation too.