blsam

WHAT DOES FRIENDSHIP MEAN TO YOU?



Friendship to me means wanting to give more than you receive.
Wanting to share whatever you can to make someone's life easier.
If you have a whole donut and your friend has none, it means sharing your donut, even though you may still be hungry.

Friendship means giving love. It means saying I'm here for you.
It means sharing not only the good times, but the painful times in another's life, too.
Friendship also means being able to silently stand there and lending a shoulder of strength.

Friendship means trust.


Friendship means unconditional acceptance, regardless of race, creed, religion, handicaps or background.

Friendship means helping ease the loneliness in life.

Friendship means saying hello, giving a smile, sharing hope.


Friendship means being able to laugh together,
to cry together, to pray together.

In the cyberworld, as in our daily lives, friends may come and go. Sometimes you are betrayed by those you trust. Take from your friendships and memories the good, keep them close, and discard the unpleasant, painful memories. To quote a trite old phrase, "ships that pass in the night" is what we essentially are in each others lives - each with a purpose for a particular time. Be guarded in your friendships, however, especially in the cyberworld. Many people live in fantasy worlds and it is best to keep those relationships in that concept - allow them to be what they "want to be" rather than what "you would like them to be." Enjoy the fun, the friendship, and take it with a grain of salt. And, enjoy those friendships that are sincere and lasting - a true friendship is a treasure for life

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monia

to me ,friendship means to share ,to care and to trust

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Monia

EternalSpark

Hey blsam, This is a very nice thread, thanks for writing it
Friendship is a very special word for me, I never call someone a friend from knowing them or just being with them at school, I'm really so picky when it comes to friendship, coz when u say that someone is your friend then u have to treat this one as a friend and expect to be treated as so, friendship can never be from one side, two people should form it, so you know, not anyone can be called a friend.

Friendship is the backbone of life Real friendship? well, this is not a common one, though it DOES exist, and there are friends that can be called real friends who value friendship, actually there are some kinds of friendships that should exist in everyone's life, that is .. other than common friendship, you can have special kinds friendships that can make your life such a great one, like for example, being a friend of your parents, just imagine being a friend with them and how easy life can be if you can understand each other and talk to each other as friends, this applies to your siblings too, and in my point of view, the most important friendship, is the friendship between you and your loved one, this kind of friendship can make your life very great, it's the key to having a stable nice life and an ever happy future.

woah! O_O I wrote sooo much!
shokran blsam 3al mawdoo3 erra2e3

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blsam

many thanks friend EternalSpark and friend monia about your quick answer and your quick Participation in this subject . this means you are understand me . and in other chose this means i have realy chose the good subject that we are the Discussion Between us .
How can we find true friendship in this often phony, temporary world? Friendship involves recognition or familiarity with another's personality. Friends often share likes and dislikes, interests, pursuits, and passion.
How can we recognize potential friendship? Signs include a mutual desire for companionship and perhaps a common bond of some kind. Beyond that, genuine friendship involves a shared sense of caring and concern, a desire to see one another grow and develop, and a hope for each other to succeed in all aspects of life. True friendship involves action: doing something for someone else while expecting nothing in return; sharing thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or negative criticism.
True Friendship - Relationship, Trust, Accountability
True friendship involves relationship. Those mutual attributes we mentioned above become the foundation in which recognition transpires into relationship. Many people say, "Oh, he's a good friend of mine," yet they never take time to spend time with that "good friend." Friendship takes time: time to get to know each other, time to build shared memories, time to invest in each other's growth.
Trust is essential to true friendship. We all need someone with whom we can share our lives, thoughts, feelings, and frustrations. We need to be able to share our deepest secrets with someone, without worrying that those secrets will end up on the Internet the next day! Failing to be trustworthy with those intimate secrets can destroy a friendship in a hurry. Faithfulness and loyalty are key to true friendship. Without them, we often feel betrayed, left out, and lonely. In true friendship, there is no backbiting, no negative thoughts, no turning away.
True friendship requires certain accountability factors. Real friends encourage one another and forgive one another where there has been an offense. Genuine friendship supports during times of struggle. Friends are dependable. In true friendship, unconditional love develops. We love our friends no matter what and we always want the best for our friends.

So how do you know if you are real friends or just simple friends?


A simple friend has never seen you cry.

A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.


A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names.

A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.


A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.

A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you

clean.
A simple friend hates it when you call after she has gone to bed.

A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.


A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.

A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.


A simple friend wonders about your romantic history.

A real friend could blackmail you with it.


A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.

A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself.


A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you HAVE an argument.

A real friend calls you after you had a fight.


A simple friend expects you to always be there for them.

A real friend expects to always be there for you!


Now don't get me wrong, it's good to have simple friends, as they are fun and offer another network of people to socialise with.

Asminha

I just wanted to drop a line to say that I read all this thread, and since it said everything, I don't have much to add.
Much of what you said guys is very meaninful, and I loved so many parts that quoting them will make my post -meant to be short, as I want just to pass by- get longer.

I liked that distinction between degrees of friends: ones who are like air, that you need all the time. Ones that are like medicine, that you need from time to time. And those who are like a disease, that you never need. Very impressive, and better said in Arabic.

Oh yeah? You think? I don't agree with that point. When someone has done something bad to you, why keep them in your mind anymore? Why would you try to keep good memories of someone who hurt you? No thanks, better discard the person herself from your life.

Like EternalSpark, I do not call anyone friend. I would even say that no one at school is a friend of mine. They are just people I meet when we had courses together, and not much shared in common outta that.
And yes, when you call someone a friend, you do have expectations, and I guess that it's fair after all. Expectations to at least be treated as a friend too.
And I agree too for the other point you talked about.

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Self-Disclosure builds friendships.

Self-disclosure is usually the first step in establishing a confidant. And it is scary because of the potential rejection factor. Do it anyway!

Start by sharing a few private thoughts and/or feelings with one person you might want for a close friend. If the person is responsive, he/she will usually share a personal thought or two with you.

If he/she is not responsive to your overtures, don't think of this as a rejection.People may be non-responsive for reasons of their own or merely as a perception of yours. Nevertheless, they can't be rejecting you because they don't even know you yet.

Listening and acknowledging builds friendships.

Often when your child, lover/partner, or friend tells you a story or voices a complaint, he/she is just asking for acknowledgment.

This does not mean that he/she wants agreement or compliance; it merely indicates a desire to be heard and understood.

Try these three steps to acknowledgment:

1. Repeat back.
2. Don't invalidate.
3. Don't try to change.
4. Don't problem solve.
Many conflicts in your personal relationships can be avoided if you will take the time to acknowledge other's feelings and points of view. For more information about acknowledgement, click here.

Listening and attending builds friendships.

Paying attention to someone is called "attending." It means that your ears, your eyes, your body and your feelings are all focused on that person at one time. Attending is a very important part of any relationship. It includes:

1. Being there physically
2. Focusing
3. Eye contact
Looking at and focusing on another person shows that you are "there for him/her." For more information on attending, click here.

Talking Is a Primary Building Block of Friendships.

Talking is an integral component of friendship.

When a friend talks and reveals ideas or feelings, he/she is expecting shared information in return. When the talk is not equal, the person talking feels as if the listener is uninterested.

In fact, the person who is always the listener is really playing the role of a counselor, not a friend. Anytime you have been talking for more than a minute or two without participation from the person you are talking to, you are lecturing, bossing, or putting that person in the role of a counselor.


Loyalty, Equality, and Respect build friendship.

Friends are equal. Without equality, you can't have a close friendship.

Friends are loyal and trustworthy. No one can confide in someone they can not trust to be loyal and to keep his/her secrets.

Friends have similar values. Our value system is so important to us that our friends' values must be close to our own or we will not have respect for this friend.

blsam